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Above all, be honest with yourself, know your own purposes for what they are, good or bad, make your own decisions firmly and rightfully – and you will be someone you like, for a change. Stop trying to impress people, especially those who are supposed to already be won over. Take yourself back and remember that nobody will value you more than you value yourself.
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It’s impractical, it’s boring, it’s the opposite of enticing. Could you really love someone who was nothing without you? Someone who just follows you around, waiting for you to say or do something, just so they can approve of it, no matter what? You couldn’t, could you Well, nobody really wants that. Just make sure you take only the pieces that fit your puzzle. Love them, learn from them, learn from everyone. Don’t build your world around someone else. When it all comes crumbling down, you will still have you. However, there is something that will definitely last forever. Being able to hold on to your core beliefs even if the one you love disapproves of them. But there’s something even more amazing not having to look for validation every second, of every day. Sure, it’s rather amazing having someone with whom to share common interests and passions. You lose the only real thing we, as human beings, have: individuality. And so, after some time, you are no longer you. And you get so worked up trying to please them that you start forgetting what you like. You start liking the music they listen to, the movies they watch, the principles they hold dear. The way your insecurities take over and you start thinking that you need to change for that one boy or that one girl. I believe this is one of the harshest and more difficult things to admit to when it comes to relationships. Ernest Hemingway once said: “The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”